Empathy often avoided because of mental effort

Even when feeling empathy for others isn’t financially costly or emotionally draining, people will still avoid it because they think empathy requires too much mental effort, according to new research published by the American Psychological Association.

Empathy, the ability to understand the feelings of another person, is often viewed as a virtue that encourages helping behaviors. But people often don’t want to feel empathy.

What the researchers say: “There is a common assumption that people stifle feelings of empathy because they could be depressing or costly, such as making donations to charity,” said the lead researcher. “But we found that people primarily just don’t want to make the mental effort to feel empathy toward others, even when it involves feeling positive emotions.”

The study, which was published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, included 11 experiments with more than 1,200 participants.

The researchers designed an “Empathy Selection Task” to test whether cognitive costs, or mental effort, could deter empathy. Over a series of trials, the researchers used two decks of cards that each featured grim photos of child refugees. For one deck, participants were told just to describe physical characteristics of the person on the card. For the other deck, they were told to try to feel empathy for the person in the photo and think about what that person was feeling. Participants were told to choose freely from either deck in each trial.

In some additional experiments, the researchers used decks that featured images of sad or smiling people. When given the choice of choosing between decks, participants consistently picked the decks that didn’t require feeling empathy, even for the photos of happy people.

“We saw a strong preference to avoid empathy, even when someone else was expressing joy,” the lead author said.

Across all of the experiments, participants on average chose the empathy deck 35% of the time, showing a strong preference for the deck that didn’t require empathy.

There also weren’t any financial costs for feeling empathy in the study because no one was asked to donate time or money to support child refugees or anyone else featured in the photos.

In survey questions after each experiment, most participants reported that empathy felt more cognitively challenging, saying it required more effort and that they felt less good at it than they did at describing the physical characteristics of other people. Participants who reported that feeling empathy was mentally demanding or made them feel insecure, irritated or distressed were more likely to have avoided the empathy deck during the experiments.

Can people be encouraged to feel empathy if they think they are good at it? In two experiments, half of the participants were told that they were better than 95% of others on the empathy deck and 50% better for the objective physical characteristics deck, while the other group was told the opposite. Participants who were told they were good at feeling empathy were more likely to select cards from the empathy deck and report that empathy required less mental effort.

The cognitive costs of empathy could cause people to avoid it, but it may be possible to increase empathy by encouraging people that they can do it well, the researchers said.

“If we can shift people’s motivations toward engaging in empathy, then that could be good news for society as a whole,” they added. “It could encourage people to reach out to groups who need help, such as immigrants, refugees and the victims of natural disasters.”

So, what? The really interesting thing about this study is the fact that people found empathy easier after having been praised for it.

This shows the action of the learning/reward neurochemical dopamine and may mean that empathy is as learned as it is genetic.

It also reinforces the power of praise. If praise can make people more empathetic then there are any number of wonderful things it can do—including making you much happier and your business more profitable.